I know what you mean Mark.I have a fantastic way to reduce the consumption for lighting in my house.I switch a bulb to a CFL,and then my wife never turns that light on again!
Talk to a Gaffer or DP in the film biz,and see if you can borrow a colour meter for the weekend.take colour meter readings of tungsten bulbs,and note the numbers,then try and match them with various CFLs.
Using daylight balanced CFLs,in conjunction with a medium yellow/light orange lamp shade(or paper lantern)can sort of resemble tungsten.You will never get the “hard light” of a tungsten bulb(although CFLs are sort of “harsh")
I use CFLs in the kids rooms,the basement,the basement stairwell etc,and halogen in the kitchen,upstairs hall,and as task lighting in the living room.I still have a conventional tungsten bulb in the dining room.Food under a CFL is a great way to diet.